Topic: Things off my chest (head).

Note, my alexithymia score was 130 and in MBTI I test as INTJ.

When people talk about the, "problems that I cause by my lack of emotion," how I'm an offense to others, they don't realize they are the only ones who feel like that. It boils down to two viewpoints vying for control. Feeling says, "I feel bad, and it's your fault." Thought says, "That's your feeling, don't blame me for your feeling." Feeling says if thought had more feelings, there would be not problem. Thought says if feeling thought more, there wouldn't be a problem.

I wish people thought more.

Thought seeks truth while feeling guards belief.

I believe that most emotions are faked, only meant to illicit reactions from others. Typically what I see is one person (the leader) say something grandiose or edgy, and then everyone else in the room (the followers) mimic it. And they all pretend they're feeling the same thing, which might be true, I bet most of them are feeling nervous and worried about not fitting in with the group on the action of mimicking the leader.

What concerns me is how when people see you're more thought based and think you, "don't have emotions," They then think it's ok to trample over you, talk to you as if you have no feelings, aren't human. I don't know what springs this desire in people the moment they think they can get away with it. But people in general are fucked up. The depth of human immorality is bottomless.

People often conflate emotions with truth. The attitude is that acting on every emotion and impulse without thought is the most authentic way to live. Thoughtless emotion is considered honest and genuine. I disagree with this completely. I don't think it's the most authentic way to be, I think it's the easiest way to be. It's the laziest way to be. Thought takes work. People are afraid of critical thinking because it could bring them out of their stupor. They justify this behavior by thinking it is honest.

Your statement reminds me of the Hans Christian Anderson tale of the EMPEROR'S NEW CLOTHES:

Typically what I see is one person (the leader) say something grandiose or edgy, and then everyone else in the room (the followers) mimic it. And they all pretend they're feeling the same thing, which might be true, I bet most of them are feeling nervous and worried about not fitting in with the group on the action of mimicking the leader.

I seem to have an instinct for noticing when the emperor isn't wearing clothes. And I'm the kid that points it out, to the chagrin of others.......

I agree with you about emotions being "Faked." My mom is a prime example. She has no sense of herself. She emotes the "feelings" that are "expected," not what HER feelings are...... For many years, I copied this, because I thought it was what people did..... Then I realized most people don't "fake" things like this. Now I am working on undoing the "copying."

I just want to clear up how much people on here would say they simply don't think they feel emotion as strongly as others compared with knowing you're feeling something, even being told by others that you look upset/nervous etc and yet throwing yourself into a panic because you don't know why you should be feeling like that and can't work out if you do feel that way. Because that's more how I often feel. Not only that but every time I cry or something in front of someone I feel embarrassed for showing weakness I guess. I mentioned it elsewhere and I'm pretty sure I have been going through depression but when I look back I think of any emotion as feeling somehow unnatural or alien, as if it's being forced on me. I'd much prefer to just go through life without emotion, than having to work out what it is I'm feeling, anyway. So I have to say that if this is the next stage of evolution I'm somehow stranded between the two, and I suspect there are plenty of others who agree. Even if we don't feel that emotional, having a way of thinking which causes you too much stress can lead to you becoming aware of it through the physical responses to emotion rather suddenly, whereas other people have the chance to recognise the stress in their emotional state before adjusting their lifestyle to stop it from building up.

I feel much more like Blank describes himself than Gelatinous. I do not feel empty; instead I will often feel something, but I'm never quite sure what it is, and even more annoying is 'why'. I have sudden bouts of confusion, multiple times in the day, where - as previously described - I know I feel something I'm just not sure of what it is, and to stabilise myself I have to discover the cause of why I'm in this 'mode' (for lack of a better term). More often than not, I'll only be half-sure of why. Also, I'm often told I look angry or unhappy, and yet I don't think I feel this way whatsoever. Before coming across alexithymia, I passed it off as others misreading me as I often did with them, but after consideration I no longer believe that.

I feel much more like Blank describes himself
Or herself*. Gender is hard to accurately guess, and more often than not I'll simply pin a 'male' tag on someone. Correct where appropriate.