Is it possible...?!
17.12.2014 by KatrinaMI know I'm Alexythemic, without a doubt. I can relate to all of the characteristics, except the dreams part, my dreams are very vivid, and emotions very apparent whilst dreaming. I often wake up crying/angry/smiling and have absolutely no idea why.
But what I want to know is if it's possible for one person to rid you of it?
I recently started talking to a guy who ive known for a long time, he's been very open and honest with me, and for once, I've been the same. I just got out of a long term relationship, and this guy has been very supportive; telling me to do whatever I feel is 'best' and the like.
Well, the thing is, talking to him I seem to be able to describe what I'm feeling and ive cried with emotion (both happy and sad tears). It was confusing as hell, but I knew why I was crying. This is most definitely a first for me.
Me and this guy got really into each other, but when it came down to it, he bailed. He said he was scared of committing, which I obviously don't understand....
And it hit me. I've never felt sadness like it. It was like the world had ended for me. And now I feel more numb than ever. I feel absolutely nothing. Nada. Zilch.
This guy has been the only time I've ever been able to describe how I've felt, and I think it's mostly because he was so good at it.
Is it possible that we only feel (or not feel as the case may be) like this, because we don't have anyone to 'show' us what to feel.
And if it's possible for just one person to change all of that?!
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18.12.2014 by Blue2162
I guess all I can say to that is that you have/had ''feelings'' for him and even if you don't understand it, your body is trying to tell you. You feeling like '' It was like the world had ended for me'' Proves it. The bad thing about it from my point of view and experience, is that when someone has gotten out of a relationship generally they're upset or need someone to talk to and a lot of guys would take advantage of it. The being scarred to commit when you get ''feelings'' for them is because maybe they also do that with other people, or he is scared he may not be faithful, that being said thats only from the people I've seen, not all guys are like that.
To answer your question I do believe it is possible for 1 person to be able to change all that, like for me that would be my girlfriend, although I can't understand literally how she feels, I have a good guess and imagine it but shes the only person who I've been able to explain my feelings to more than anyone else and she tries to understand and stays with me knowing everything.
I think all we need is just one person to show us and help us try experience and understand the feelings. We just need to be shown and put into a situation where we feel even something we can explain and all we have to do is remember that. Just remember what you feel at the time you feel it even if its brief and just remember what caused it because even if you don't understand, at least you know what makes that feeling arise.
I seem to give good advice but I was told I'd do well to follow my own advice but I understand that its all easier said than done
