Help me communicate with alexithymia friend
19.11.2014 by SassyI had an ah-ha moment today. While discussing a coworker of mine with 2 other people, someone made the comment that he had aspergers. At first I laughed, then it hit me...omg- yes, he has a personality disorder (and I don't mean that in a bad way). I was secretly involved with this guy (it was work, and I'm going through a divorce.) We hut it off on a "chemistry" level and maintained a secret relationship/fling for 3 months. Things got a little...I mean a teenie bit heavy with some work drama and another woman who liked him, and I'm friends with. So I was stuck in the middle of her liking this guy, him being ignorant to it, and me hearing both sides. All of the sudden, he went silent, and got weird.
We never really talked about feelings. He us very irritated about work all the time. Very negative to the casual observer. Over the course of our "relationship" I felt he was emotionally unavailable, but saw that there was a really nice person hiding in there. We are friendly now, but I like him, and now I want to help him. He doesn't have any close friends and he sporadically shows up to after work or lunch gatherings. How can I connect with him? Not romantically, that was not a problem. Now that it's over, how can I be his friend?
tv and fantasy
08.05.2015 by friendofalex
I too am a friend of an Alex. I am curious, does your friend watch a lot of television and consider it more important what is going on in the characters lives than his own?
Hey
18.08.2015 by DrunkAlpaca
Hey so i'v only recently found out i am alexi and tbh even now i still not really sure what it really means also im just 18 so my experience with other people are kinda limited since well i have alexi so i guess take my comment with a grain of salt
As far as the tv and fantasy thing i can strongly relate to that for me its anime and tv series "worlds" just sounds better i guess i can often (almost every day) find myself just thinking about one of the fantasy worlds i like and doing some kind of fan fic in my head of what i would have done there and interacting with the heroes of the fantasy.
As for the op question i do have friends and for me its more about a common interest then emotional feelings for my group of friends its video games and animes (and some times we talk about political and what happens in the world right now more like debates and stuff like that) i used to have another group of friends where our common interest was basketball whenever we went out to court it was fine but i slowly started to dis like playing more and more and at this point i barely talk to them or tbh want to so i guess try to find a common interest and make it the center of your friendship
again im young and dont even sure if im alexi or something else but thats my thoughts
